THE ART OF GETTING WHAT YOU WANT

If you are here, that means you are the one of those people who are desperate to know, "How they can get everything they want?"

Before starting anything, I want to you to ask yourself this question.

      "What is it you really want most?" 

If you know the answer to this question, then it's my honor to say this that you are on right track. You are not confused about your goals, or whatever you want to achieve in your life.

If I talk about me, and my dreams, and what I want in my life. So, there are too many things that I wanted to do. I am still young and still fighting for what I want. But I know, for what I am fighting and doing these things.

I wanted to share a lot of things with others that I know, but I feared what if they don't like, or I misguide them.

Writing blog was never my thing, but this is the only thing which can help me to connect with as many as people I wanted to.  

I wanted to be in a relationship, but i feared that if i got into one I'd do something to mess it up. 

So, these are not the only things that i wanted to do in my life, but i can't write everything about them, if i write them, then it will be like "This is My Story", which i am going to publish in near future.

So, What to do to get anything you want?

1.  BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

“Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you imagine.” 

― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

If you wanted to achieve something, the first thing you should do is that, Never stop believing in        yourself or never stop believing in whatever you want. Have unwavering faith in yourself, for good and bad. 

If it's confidence, relationship or your career, it doesn't matter because if you don't believe in yourself that you can do this then, it is going to very difficult for you to achieve your goal. 

But if you are struggling to find it, then never stop looking for it, but don't get stuck there. Everything is near to you, you just have to find it. Once you find your believe in yourself then every other steps will become little bit easier, but still you have to do things.

Believe that, you are going to achieve whatever you want.

                           

2.  BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF

Be honest with yourself, and you will find the motivation to do what you advise others to do. 

         --- Vince Poscente

You have to be honest with yourself. Because you are the one who is going to take all the efforts to help yourself to get what you want. 

Sometimes, we do everything but, the things we do aren't the things we wanted to do, aren't the things we wanted to achieve. We tricked our self to find an excuse to the things we have done. 

But if you are really into this, really wanted to do something for yourself, then you should be honest with yourself. You can lie to others, but there should be someone, with whom you are honest and that should be you.

It will be better if you try to be honest with yourself and others.  

3.  TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME

The one thing we know about the future is that it comes only one day at a time.

Always remember that, you are not going to get what you wanted in one day. But, you can take baby steps everyday to get them.Don't rush your things, do it at a speed that you can afford. 

Start with small success, and then move towards to the big one.This small success will boost your confidence and you'll get more involved in your dreams rather than getting distracting from them.

You can do this by dividing your dreams in parts. Dividing your dream in small parts, will reduce the weight of doing things at once.

Every other day when you do something to achieve your goals, will take you one step closer to your success. 

4.  TELL YOURSELF YOU'RE WORTH IT

"Whatever you believe about yourself on the inside is what you will manifest on the outside."

How we think of our self, always help us to get what we want. If you're thinking that, you are not worth it or you don't deserve it. Then think twice, may be thrice, but think again, because nobody is worthless. Everyone deserve something, they are worth to someone.

Look for the reasons, which will show Why, and How are you worth it. You are doing this for yourself, you have taken so much effort to came here, to fulfill your dreams.

Tell yourself, that this your opportunity, you are worth it and you deserve it.

    

5.  SET BOUNDARIES

Honouring your own boundaries is the clearest message to others to honor them, too. 

                                           ― Gina Greenlee

Setting boundaries for yourself, will help you to find your limits. If you'll set your boundaries properly, then it can help you find fulfillment and less stress. If you don't set any boundaries for yourself then it'll be very stressful for you to achieve what you want. 

You can set your boundaries by considering your past and present, which will help you to make a better future for you.

6.  KNOW YOUR STRENGTH AND WEAKNESS

I believe that the biggest problem that humanity faces is an ego sensitivity to finding out whether one is right or wrong and identifying what one's strengths and weaknesses are.

Knowing your strength and weakness is not a very hard. You can find out your weakness, by taking help of your friends, family. They are only one people who know your real weakness. But if they are not able to do so, you can do the SWOT (S - Strength, W - Weakness, O -  Opportunity, T - Threat) analysis on yourself.

If you know your weakness, then try to change them in your strength so, there will be no weakness left in you. But don't left your strength, you required both your strength and weakness.

7.  BUILD CONFIDENCE WITH SMALL WINS

Don't try to rush progress. Remember -- a step forward, no matter how small, is a step in the right direction. Keep believing.------Kara Goucher

Your confidence is always going to increase by the small wins not by the failures.

You may get the small win, but with that small win, the confidence is going to build is far more enjoyable and help you to do more hard work.

8.  CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOUR

“I never could bear the idea of anyone's expecting something from me. It
always made me want to do just the opposite.” 
― Jean-Paul Sartre, No Exit

You can't change what happens in your past. But you can change whatever is going to happen in your future by changing your behaviour. Make yourself more liable so, it will be easier for you and other to be reliable on you.

Your behaviour is one of things that describes you, if it is not good then you should change it. But don't change for others, change it for yourself.

9.  EXPECT SUCCESS

Don't lower your expectations to meet your performance. Raise your level of performance to meet your expectations. Expect the best of yourself, and then do what is necessary to make it a reality.

This is very simple, expecting something from others, are the easiest and most doable thing that human beings always do. 

But expecting success,  it might seems strange to say, since no one can predict the future. But i think we humans can predict the future also, but How?. We always predict the failure, or anything wrong which is going to happen in our life.

So, why not, predict the future by expecting success. It'll increase our confidence for success and we all know that success come from confidence.

Research suggests that, it's universally false that, by expecting the worst, won't disappoint you when you will fail, and you will be pleasantly surprised when you succeed. Pessimism is only going to undermine your performance by creating self-fulfilling prophecy.

Always Find the success and expect success everyday, you'll see notice after time that they increase. 

10. DON'T LOSE FAITH

Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith.

I can understand, that doing something out of your scope, is very hard for anyone. But, you should remember the main reason why you have started this, why you wanted to do this. You aren't going to get success everytime you go out.

Failures are the only things which will always remind you that, how much work you have to do, and how much work you have done yet. Your failure is the first step to your success.

You don't have to lose faith in yourself, in your dreams, you have to trust your capabilities. Only thing that you have to do, focus on your work and always think positive that you are doing it right. But here is the catch, if you are really doing it wrong then don't lie to yourself, and find the right way to do it but never lose faith.

Your Faith is the only thing, which is going to keep your dreams alive, Don't lose it.

11. SEE THE BIG PICTURES

To be a champion, I think you have to see the big picture. It's not about winning and losing; it's about every day hard work and about thriving on a challenge. It's about embracing the pain that you'll experience at the end of a race and not being afraid. I think people think too hard and get afraid of a certain challenge.

As i have explained earlier, you should take one day at a time, but you should never lose the big picture. Because at the end, you are going to achieve this. So, don't get stuck at small things. 

Focus on what really is important and how you can get what you want out of life.

You can manage your life effectively by arranging your dreams, which will help you to see the big picture "Your Dreams" clearly and will guide you to achieve them.

12. KEEP YOUR HEAD CLEAR

Keep a cool head and maintain a low profile. Never take the lead - but aim to do something big.

The most important thing in doing this is that, you should keep your mind clear. 

To do that, you should get a plenty of sleep, which align your mind and clear away clutter. Your visualization and proclamation will support you in this. 

Clear mind will help you to think clearly, and help you to see things clearly and you will take your decisions more precisely.

There are some books that can also help you to get what you want :

1. Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway: How to Turn Your Fear and Indecision into Confidence and Action by Susan Jeffers          
2. Step Up: Confidence, Success and Your Stellar Career in 10 Minutes a Day by Phanella Mayall Fine
3. Mindset: How You Can Fulfil Your Potential by Carol Dweck